Charlotte Mason Lite

Hi, fellow homeschool moms!

Veterans and newbies alike: come one, come all. If you have been hearing things about the Charlotte Mason Approach that have made you wonder if it’s right for your family, check out this article.

Learn some of the basics of the Charlotte Mason Approach and how to apply them to your homeschool plans. Find out how to take baby steps and just try one thing at a time. Check out the simple ways that I did things in a Charlotte Mason way but didn’t follow a rigid plan or schedule. I just applied the elements of it that I considered the most important and effective.

I Blamed Myself for the Sins of My Children

I Blamed Myself for the Sins of My Children

Here I am at age 55 with 5 grown children and 5 that I still have some kind of responsibility for. That’s a lot of 5’s!

My older kids all grew up at once. They are now 28, 25, 23, 22, and 19.

They got jobs, learned to drive, started noticing the opposite sex, got their hearts broken, found out that not all people are as nice as their family, started exploring the ways of the world, tried lots of new things – even some things that grieved my heart, disobeyed my orders, rejected my values, stopped sharing what was happening in their lives, and seemed to forget everything they had been taught.

It made me question myself. Did I really teach them what I should have? Did I fail as their mother and their teacher?

It has been a very rough 7 years. Even rougher than losing our house and wandering around the United States for 7 years. Now I’m seeing 7’s! That makes 14 years of rough times.

My Kids Stopped Trusting God

The hardest thing was seeing my kids seeming to lose their faith. We have been believing God for big things for so long. And it seems like most of those things haven’t happened yet. I guess they got tired of waiting and decided that our life of faith was misguided. That we really can’t live by faith and depend on God and trust Him to reward those who diligently seek Him.

I started finding out about things that my kids were doing. I heard some language that they were using. It became obvious that they were not concerned with pleasing God or pleasing me.

I wondered if I hadn’t taught them enough about the fear of God. I thought maybe I should have been more strict or more regimented in my teaching of the Word. I felt sick in body and sick at heart when I saw them slipping away from the moral precepts and standards that I had always set in our home.

I caught myself imagining them in their sinful acts. It stole my joy for quite a while. It interfered with my ability to enjoy my daily life with the rest of my family. I have to admit I had to fight anger, too. I was shocked that they would throw away all the beautiful ideals and dreams that I had for them. I was indignant that they would think I was wrong and that they knew better than I did. I think all of that added to my shame and blame. It was a miserable time.

The Lord Set Me Free From Blame and Shame

I realized that I was blaming myself for their sins. I prayed and asked the Lord how I should view this. He let me know that I had done the best I could do in teaching them His ways. He reminded me of all the Bible passages I had studied with them, all of the praying we had done together, and specific times I laid hands on them and prayed for them.

He told me that I had put up barriers to keep them from sin and the ways of the world. It was not my fault that they crossed them.

It was not my fault that they were choosing a life of sin. I was not responsible for their choices, and I couldn’t take the blame for them. They were old enough to make their own choices, and it wasn’t my fault that they were making bad choices.

Letting Go of False Responsibility

I let go, and gave them back to the Lord again. I realized that I couldn’t stop them from doing what they were doing. And I let go of the false responsibility and guilt. I gave them into God’s care completely.

I don’t keep track of their comings and goings. I do make sure that they don’t bring anything into our home that will contaminate the atmosphere of our home. One of them left home, because he refused to abide by our rules.

But he is plenty old to be on his own. It was hard for us, because we viewed ourselves as one big happy family. At least, that’s how I saw us.

It’s hard when they grow up and start making their own choices, and the choices are not what you would choose. To see them stop believing what they were taught is the hardest thing of all.

We Are Not to Blame for the Sins of Our Children

But the biggest lesson I have learned is that we can’t blame ourselves. No matter how they were raised, some will decide to try out new ideas, new beliefs, different ways than their parents taught them. It’s not anything that we did wrong. It’s just that they are individuals with free will.

It was very freeing when I finally accepted the fact that it wasn’t my fault.

Now I pray that God will protect them and watch over them. And I pray that they will fulfill their prophetic destinies. I’m declaring in prayer that my children are taught of the Lord and great is the peace of my children. I’m decreeing that I have trained them up in the way they should go and when they’re old they won’t depart from it (meaning they’ll return to it).

In the meantime, I love them and do whatever I can to support them and help them. I’m keeping the door open for when they will return. I’m adopting the attitude of the father of the Prodigal. I will run to them with arms wide open when they turn back to the ways of the Lord.

I’m so thankful that the Lord brought me to the freedom and peace of knowing that I’m not to blame for their sins.

Did You Have a Successful Homeschool Year?

Photo by Jude Beck on Unsplash
Relax and listen to this sweet tune as you ponder last year and plan for next year. Catch the light, upbeat feeling and feel the hope for a successful year in all the right ways.

Looking back on last year and assessing how it went is a good thing to do before planning next year’s homeschool.

When I look back on the year, some of the things I check for may surprise you.

These are some of the questions I ask myself to assess how well our homeschool year went:

  1. Did you spend time together as a family?
  2. Did your kids learn how to be more kind and considerate?
  3. Did your kids become more mature and less selfish?
  4. Did you get to know your children?
  5. Did they get to know you?
  6. Did you make memories?
  7. Did you enjoy the year?
  8. Did the kids enjoy the year?
  9. Did they make progress in important academic skills?
  10. Did your kids learn life skills such as cooking, cleaning, building, fixing things, and problem solving?
The best kind of homeschooling. Family spending time together and having fun. Making memories. Experiencing new things. Being outside together. Talking to each other. Sharing an adventure. This is Family Schooling! Photo by Daiga Ellaby on Unsplash

Even in a relaxed homeschool or in unschooling, I cover the main academic subjects. But I will not do them in a schoolish sort of way.

I will use methods that are more hands-on and interactive. And I will measure each activity to ascertain if it will really add to necessary knowledge or skills. And I will take into account the learning style and interests of each child. I don’t make them spend hours doing “school”. I let them learn many things naturally and use teachable moments profusely.

As you can see by the questions I use to determine the success of our homeschool year, I put more value and emphasis on personal development, character building, and relationship skills.

This is how I measure the success of our homeschool year.

So, considering the questions I posed above, Did You Have a Successful Homeschool Year?

Did you have a successful homeschool year?

Posted by Changed By Love on Thursday, June 6, 2019
Here’s the video I made about this topic!

Psalm 107:30 Then they were glad that the waters were quiet, and He brought them to their desired haven.

Praying for you and your success,